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couple questions, cause apparently i'm really bad at this. - don't let the bastards grind you down.
taumeson
taumeson
couple questions, cause apparently i'm really bad at this.
When a guy and a girl are talking, how can that guy tell if the girl is really interested?

I mean, are long conversations about childhood, kids, the past and the future not a good sign?

Plus, she keeps saying we've got to hang out, but is busy for the next few weeks, apparently...but says "I will call you, promise". Why "promise" anything, if you're not interested?

This kinda applies to more than one person, which is funny. One keeps saying "we will" but we haven't, and the other says "we will" and keeps blowing me off.

Yet the one who keeps blowing me off (heh, I had to say SOMETHING about it ;) also promises we'll get together soon. Latest is mini-golf on Sunday. We'll see....

Edit I mean, sure, one way to know if a girl is interested is if she's forward and is able to re-schedule things (and does so!) and makes you an obvious priority....but is that the only way? Also...I'd have a lot fewer problems if I was just the kind of guy to ask straight out...but I'm not. I dunno, I just think that if a chick that I'm on the fence with asks me if I'm interested, I'm more likely to be put on guard instantly.
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From: dreaming_aloud Date: June 4th, 2003 11:23 am (UTC) (Link)
When all is said and done--you usually can't tell with us female types. We may like you a lot and adore you completely and in such a way that makes us compelled to go out of the way to spend time with you and to become very emotionally intimate with you...but may not feel the drive to make it more than frienship at the same time.

Funny creatures, women. The only way you ever know with us is if you make a move or vice versa...and that can be a whole new can of worms.
christy_p From: christy_p Date: June 4th, 2003 11:46 am (UTC) (Link)
Again, I say be straightforward. I know it's not commonplace in the dating arena, but it's necessary, I believe. I'm a very straightforward kinda person anyway, so it's pretty easy for me and I have to use some restraint from telling too much...anyway, I'd rather just know the exact truth (even if it isn't what I want it to be) than be left to speculate.

OR if coming straight out with the question is a problem for ya, take a deep breath, tell her your interested in getting to know her better and potentialy date her...read her reactions and go from there.
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